Comments on: Honk If You Have a Bully

By: What Moms are Saying About Bullies | motherboardmoms

What Moms are Saying About Bullies | motherboardmoms — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 21:16:10 +0000

[...] 11% of moms say their child has been the bully. (Read this mom’s story.) [...]

By: Wronda

Wronda — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 15:33:20 +0000

You My Friend are most definately not alone…..just a little over a month ago, our one year old was kicked out of day care for biting…..and trust me….I beat myself up over that one, until one day I received an email from another day care containing an article about children and biting…..and in all my stressing out…..after reading that I found out that it’s not uncommon for it to happen…..and not to freak when it does…you just have to kind of go with the flow…..and if your doing what’s right for your child…..you won’t regret it…even during those bad moments….needless to say…our daughter is at home with a day sitter right now…..which seems to be working out for the best for all of us….but we’ll see, cause now I’m beating myself up over not allowing her to be around other children to gain social skills….so the list goes one…..I’ll figure it out……ONE DAY..

By: kristen

kristen — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 00:39:06 +0000

Yay, Christine! So happy to have you reading.

And for what it’s worth, I still spin my way down hallways. Life’s more fun that way!

By: Christine

Christine — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:09:59 +0000

Thank you for this. My daughter was born on the ‘cutoff date’ for kindergarten, and when told that she ‘goes to kindergarten’ we started preparing her. Little did I know, this district has a preK class, a Young 5′s preschool class, and all around seems to fully support ‘letting her wait’ and we didn’t. shame on us.

She is academically ready and reading at the top of her class. With that, is a little trouble staying focused on task, and a preference to spin through the hallways instead of walking in formation.

With that, she has also met the principal three times, once resulting in a suspension. (she and her tablemates were ‘pretending to cut each other with scissors, and she thought she had more space.’ Guess what? Safety scissors are not all that safe) I know too well the pit in the stomach feeling.

Reading your blog, particularly the part about the first 6 weeks, helped me understand. Thank you.

By: Faith Caulder

Faith Caulder — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 17:37:08 +0000

So good to hear a parent actually wondering if their child is a bully. I was bullied when I was in school, and let me tell you, it was not fun. However, one incident does not a bully make. It is when “others” are encouraged to join in, and your child is the “ring leader” that parents should become worried. What makes me wonder all these years later, is WHY this particular person felt that they had to right to be mean to another person? What in her genetic make up would fuel such anger and hate? More importantly, did she grow up and raise bullies of her own; or in the world of karma, were her children victims of bullies? When I had my own children, I tried to let them know how important it is to be tolerant of others. I realize that I had suceeded when I got a phone call one day when my son was in middle school, and a parent told me she had observed him trying to protect another kid from a group of boys who were yelling at him. When I asked him why he hadn’t told me about it he calmly said there wasn’t anything to say. He didn’t know the other boy but felt that three against one wasn’t fair. He did however, know the the main bully and was able to talk to him about what was going on and let him know that “beating up” on someone smaller and alone wasn’t too cool. I had never felt more proud of anyone and more humble in all my life, than at that very moment. Long story short, parents start talking with your children at an early age and maybe bullies will become a thing of the past.

By: Christopher Plambeck

Christopher Plambeck — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 16:41:43 +0000

Thanks for a great read, Kristen. I wanted to let you know I also don’t think you have a problem. You see, I was the bully as a child. And I feel really guilty not only for what I did to other children, but when I think how hard it must have been on my parents to be the ones with ‘that child’. I was hyperintelligent, but didn’t find out until recently I have depression and ADHD. I just know I was a very unsatisfied child. If Kate was an actual bully, I don’t think you would be asking yourself if she was, you’d know. Good luck!

By: Nell

Nell — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 18:50:25 +0000

Nobody wants to get that call…and we have, more than once!! So you’re not alone on the ledge, this too shall pass, and talking about it helps. (Just ask John about our drive home when it happened to me.)